No one belongs here as much as you.

I truly enjoy working on projects with my husband. The process of actually making time to get together to make things happen — which includes time allowed for good communication, the syncing of our brains and ideas, researching, and then finally putting rubber to the road to bring it all together — it’s not always the easiest thing for us to do. We’re both really busy doing our own things at times, but magic happens when the Polk brains come together.

And this is why: Kyle Polk encourages me in a way that no one else does. Perhaps this is because I value his opinions and criticisms more than anyone else’s. And perhaps that’s because he processes his ideas for a while before speaking them. You will rarely hear him speak something that he doesn’t absolutely believe and that’s because the idea has been tossed about in his weird little head for long enough that he’s behind it 100%. (This doesn’t mean he’s always right, but just that his opinion is rarely – if ever – a knee-jerk reaction.)

Today, Kyle told me, “I wish people saw you the way I see you.”

And here are my thoughts on that.

“Hello, nicest boy of my life. Tonight, you can share my bed.”

But seriously, you would all hate me. If I were vulnerable, selfish, mean, honest, dirty (bordering on disgusting at times) with you like I am with him … If you saw my emotions run the gamut between elation and exasperation and ire … If you saw these things in me the way my husband has seen them, you would hate me. You would worry – as I’m sure he does at times – about my sanity.

I love my marriage. I apologize to anyone who has heard me make derogatory comments about my marriage – or marriage in general – because I am only going for the easy joke. I never intend to defame what has been so good to me.

Not every moment is golden and glorious, but there are days that make the ugly ones completely worth it. We make a good team, he and I. We support each other and each believes the other is capable of more and pushes them until they reach it – or believes until they find that belief in themselves.

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5 responses to “No one belongs here as much as you.

  1. Rita – you can say things like no one else! It’s a blessing to me to see your marriage as it is -fun, encouraging and real.

  2. Thank you, Amy. This was on my mind because the other night at my small group, one of the college girls said at one point during the discussion that one of the things that she would see as a “starting point” for something good in life would be finding someone to marry. (It was part of the discussion and other people mentioned finding a good job, graduating college, etc.) And I said to her, jokingly, “That just brings up a whole new set of problems.”

    I regretted it immediately but couldn’t bring the words back. Because it’s not true. It IS, but the problems it answers are worth the problems it creates.

    Anyway. It was on my mind.

    Meagan if you ever read this, I didn’t mean it!! Find a good man and marry him. It’ll be among the best decisions of your life!

  3. Rita! I’m so glad to ahve found you again. What a wonderful post. I couldn’t have said it better. There is nothing like a compliment from the person who sees you most truly. And marriage is worth it. What a gift from God! -Laura

  4. Rita… i told you i read your blogs… anyways… blogs like this make me happy… Just to see the two of yall grow from the beginning of time till now is awesome… U know i tell you all the time that u got a good one in Mr. Polk… but he didn’t do bad either in finding you!!! You two work together like no other two i know… And… i am glad you decided to share your bed with him!!! 😉

  5. To Laura – I’m glad you “found” me again too! Welcome back! 🙂

    To Peck – If anybody knows how far we’ve come, it’s you. After all, yours was the car we most made-out in during our college years! 🙂

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